She remembered the car with deep sadness.

She sat in front of me and I could see on her face that a new memory had surfaced.

Her facial muscles collapsed, and she hung her head.

She was in the back seat with a family member.

She did not remember who was in the front.

The conversation went from casual to her husband raising his voice at her and saying something like “you have no idea what you are saying and be quiet.”

She was flooded with shame.

She wanted to get out of the car.

She did not say “pull over now!”

Instead, she thought of all the people who depended on her “staying” and how deeply they would be impacted.

They were her kids, parents and siblings.

There was a lot riding on her ability to endure.

She endured.

Asked what she would do differently, she smiled and replied “oh, that’s easy. I would say ‘Stop this damn car.’ I would get out. I would know my worth.”

This sounds like 20/20 vision.

What does your 20/20 vision look like?

Find a memory and make a change to your own behavior.

You’d be surprised how good you’ll feel.

Always on your side,

Indrani

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